Despite the Distractions, I Can Be Me

Sometimes, I pretend to be normal and be like everybody else. I would opt to settle for what the majority agrees upon and do what the majority is doing. I would go where the crowd is and eat like them in order to belong. I have tried fitting in, although I have my own niche, and be what the “everybody” is doing. For a while, it was fun but I got bored and went back to being me.

I have been in the “confusion” bandwagon just like everybody else. Trying to fit in and belong is what we normal yearn for and in the process, be where the crowd is. I mean, we all want to be in the know and seen but in the process, we tend to lose ourselves. Yes, we lose who we are and instead be who we are not. Simply put, we have a façade of somebody else and our innate self – a very unlikely combination that aptly describes and defines who we are. 

Beyond the Obvious and into Reality

The most important things in life are not things. Yes, this is true. Things are but perishable thus they end up in the trash and forgotten. As much as we would like to stock up and pile on material things, with wear and tear, they would eventually rot and be parted away with. 

To part away from something implies a literal act of turning back and walking away. It so speaks of the ability of the self to let go and move on. Although, like breaking up and being left behind, it is but one tough act to overcome. 

Learning to Love Again with the Aid of NLP and TLT

To be happy is one thing but to be able to maintain and sustain such is another. For one, I am happy. I may not be with another significant other at this moment but I am happy as I am stable. I am working thus I am able to support my yearnings in life. I am surrounded with people I call friends that, anytime of the day, I can talk to them about everything and anything under the sun. Importantly, I have a family that supports me and contributes well into the perfection and completeness of my life.

I would be a hypocrite if I say that I am not one who gets jealous of those who are with a significant other in their lives but , with all honesty, I can say that I am happy of where I am now and who I am with. The time I spent gawking at lovers have passed as I have learned to embrace what I have. I used to dwell on the imaginary and question why I have no one in particular to be right by my side, but as hours turned into days, I have accepted that this is not the right time to fall in love. 

The Dynamic Duo of NLP And Time Line Therapy®

Last time I cried, I was all drenched with tears and sweat that I could hardly breathe. I was so caught up with the moment that I was lost for rationale and more so of the presence of time. I was quiet slumped and sulking over a bountiful spill that I have not been aware of my personal needs. All I could think of was how to put my aching heart to rest. 

I know crying my eyes off won’t help me get by, more so, surpass the ordeal. I need to control myself, though I am trying, still to no avail. I cannot stop even if I want to. Of the days that I kept things to myself, I would end up sleeping after a tearful session. By the time I wake up, I would be all sore and weary of the world around me. 

Making my way downtown with Time Line Therapy®

I am not one to confide my emotions and feelings to others. I would rather keep it to myself and resolve it alone. Sharing what and how I feel is not something I am comfortable of doing. Do not get me wrong, I am not a loner or even an island, I just want to keep things to myself. I believe that some things are better kept private than be shared.

Most often than not, those who listen to us end up either with us or against us. “With us” connotes a positive feeling of sympathy wherein he shares a certain degree of intimacy in relation to the problem on hand while the latter implies a shrug off feeling wherein he just plainly listens or exudes a “I do not care” attitude.  Indeed, the difference is incomparable. 

Employing your experiences with Time Line Therapy®

Experiences are but the most influential elements in our lives. Consequential as circumstances, it could make or break an individual’s quest for a better life.  Taken either as positive or negative, experiences remain to be a prototypical requirement in unmasking lives many facets.

A steady life rhythm connotes emotional stability. With the aforementioned, an individual is able to control the pace and keep to a tee the life he has now and would have in the future. However, it should be understood that emotional stability does not only appertain to emotions and feelings but rather it should be understood to mean the whole being of an individual.

Questions and Time Line Therapy®

Have you ever wanted to ask a question, but did not, because you knew your heart could not handle the answer? Have you ever wondered how it would be to live the life you have always wanted? On the other hand, have you ever speculated on your capability to let go of past traumatic experiences that are holding you back? 

 Most of our lives, we dwell on ‘what have happened’ rather than on ‘what actually happened’. We, as customary as age-old traditions, like to keep abreast with the past tenses of our lives rather than on our present and future tenses. We forego present undertakings to delve on past experiences. Nevertheless, we like to dig into the relics of the past than accept the present openly.

Neuro Linguistic Programming answers your “What Ifs”

What if I told you I love you before you left, would things be different between us?

Realization is masked by regret. We think we have come to a realization but the truth of the matter is that we regret not doing what we have wanted done or achieved. We feel sorry and pity ourselves for what could have been but nowhere are we ready to accept our failure to act on our gusto. We always dwell on the past thus allowing us to forget the importance of our present in relation to our future.

I think of you.. My heart belongs to you

An emotional journey with Time Line Therapy®

Why do we fall in love? Is it intuition that makes us fall in love or is it but inevitable for us to long for another individual to make us feel loved and teach us how to love?

The idea of love is both a vast and vague concept at the same time. It is ungraspable like the wind, unseen like the ghost and unheard of like the choir of angels up above. Despite its incongruence with what we normally accept and believe to be true, we still believe in love. We say we are in love with a particular individual and we experience a different high with whomever it is that we are in love with.

However, how would we know if we are really in love or just in love with the notion of love? Is love measureable? Is love definable?

De-stressing Stress

True, we all need stress in our lives to keep us well and healthy. However, too much of something, particularly stress, is bad for the health. According to studies, too much stress causes chemicals to react thus, rendering damage to the brain.

The solution? Develop the ability to remove and eradicate excess stress from your system. Now the question is, “how do you do it?”

Mixed Signals

I am afraid of bees. I have had the worst experience with them when I was a little girl. The feeling I get when I see one is much the same as seeing a dozen hives at the same time. The reaction on my end is but typical as I am not much fascinated with them – the buzzing sound alone irks me like crazy.

For someone who loves and are bee enthusiasts, seeing a bee or a hive gives them pleasure and joy. However, for someone like me, anxiety strikes in.

In the given scenario, though the same thing was seen (the bee), different signals were sent and interpreted by the brain.

Every person is different.

Falling out of Love

“Never love anybody who treats you like you are  ordinary”

Oscar Wilde

For most, the hardest part of falling in love is eventually anticipating that there is going to be an end – in every beginning, there is an inevitable end. No matter how hard we try to turn things around, some things are really not meant to be.

Embracing change through Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

To curtail one’s freedom is like amputating their limbs, locking it in a safe box and throwing away the keys. Human’s as we are, we are enthralled by the things we see, hear, smell, taste and feel. For us, to believe means to experience it on our own and not mere stories or hearsays. Indeed, experience plays a vital role in our growth and development.

Road To Reality

WHAT IF? A simple two (2)-word question that can stimulate even the littlest subconscious neuron in our brain. The question, though rendered wishful and hopeful in general, could also appertain to memories of the past, situations of the present and possibilities of the future.

In Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) parlance, it pertains to the possibility that could, would and should have been. Regret is but an inevitable part of human existence but the possibilities are but as limited as your imagination.

What it is that motivates us? | Embrace change for your own self and not for others or what the society dictates.

What is it that motivates us?

It should not be about material things or superficial highs in life. It should be about inner strength, inner peace and inner satisfaction that should motivate an individual to further nourish his life.

Life patterns and habits are the key to change.

Life patterns come in different shapes and sizes. Some may be life changing while some are not. As a result, we get used to things, circumstances and individuals that when a certain situation comes along, we just act on impulse. Moreover, because we act out of impulse, we tend not to think and just relieve past experiences regarding the situation. We filter our minds according to how we want the outcome to be. In other words, we alter the situation together with the effects in relation to how we want things to appear. And that should not be the case.

Tad James: Living free

Dr. Tad James, MS, PhD. has been teaching Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy^® and Hypnosis for over 25 years.  He, together with his equally dynamic wife Dr. Adriana James, MA, PhD, founded the Tad James Co, an organization that practices and teaches NLP.  He further served as the president of the American Board of Hypnotherapy for over ten (10) years.  Dr. Tad James, Ms, PhD has also written seven (7) very successful NLP books.

Young Tad

Tad James was born and raised in Washington DC. His father, Preston James (then Chairman of the Geography Department at the Syracuse University) taught him traditional values and beliefs in life while his mother, Eileen James, taught him equality and that each of us has potential to create miracles. With such an upbringing, high expectations were set thus causing the young Tad to excel and be the most successful in whatever field he chooses to pursue.

“I never let my mind think bad thoughts.”

-Eileen James

Professional Tad

Tad James attended Syracuse University and graduated with a Masters Degree in Mass Communication. He began his professional career as a manager and soon managing his own radio station. Thereafter, becoming a consultant.

Dr. Tad James, MS, PhD
Tad James Co.

Tad and NLP

His perpetual social experience coupled with his strong positive background led him to discover useful communication techniques that could affect both the personal and professional lives of an individual. His curiosity led him to study Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP and thereafter develop a discipline known as Time Line Therapy. His name has become synonymous with NLP and he has used his discovery to transform the lives of others.

In 1988, he published his first book entitled Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality®.

The Time Line Therapy® technique has become a respected and effective model for affecting positive change in the family, business and interpersonal career paths. Further, it has been used to help improve symptoms of post-traumatic stress in people living in war zone regions.

Tad James was the first NLP trainer to do Learn NLP Training in an accelerated format. More so, he designed and implemented the seven (7) day NLP training before anyone else. Further, his accelerated format for an NLP Practitioner in only seven (7) days (with pre-study) has later become the standard in the industry. 

Join Tad and Adriana James and discover the wonders of NLP, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnosis. Contact them through their website http://www.nlpcoaching.com/

Awareness and Acceptance

Man is but what he makes of himself. He is free and at the same time limited. He can be whom he want to be but with conditions. In other words, man is not limited.

Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP deals with overcoming man’s weaknesses and transforming them into his strengths. The capability of man to overcome negativity is what sets him apart from the rest in the animal kingdom. Though man is rendered time based (for some, transition and coping up takes place over the course of a few years), he is still able to turn things around at his own phase.

Being aware of your situation is the first step in the process of change. Yes, change is a process –it takes time and patience and steps to overcome. However, all of them would be rendered moot and academic if man does not accept the reality that change brings.

Acceptance is but the hardest part in the transition process. Some cannot let go of the past while others does not want to let go of the past. There is a big difference between cannot let go and does not want to let go. Though both involve awareness, the former deals with “I am aware of them but I have to keep them here with me” while the latter means “I am aware of them but I do not want to let them go as they form part of my being.”

Neuro Linguistic Programming is by far a helpful method of teaching the self to transform and let go of the past (experiences and the likes). More so, NLP helps one to embrace the things you have and enhance them to have a better, brighter and fuller future.

Aiming for a better today and prosperous tomorrow should be the mantra of each and every one. Do not let your limitations or weaknesses be a hindrance. Rather, learn to transform them into something positive and embrace its outcome.

We shall not let the past hinder our growth and put a halt in our future. Learn how to embrace the negativity in you and transform them to positive. Learn NLP. 

Modeling Behavior through NLP

What is Communication?

In the dictionary, communication (Latin word : “communis” which means to share) is best defined as the exchange of messages, information or thoughts either by speech (oral), visual (aids), signals (hand and body movements) or writing.

Communication entails five (5) components namely:

1.     Sender – one who gives or relays the message;

2.     Message – the intention, information or data needed to be communicated;

3.     Channel –  involves oral, writing or bodily movements;

4.     Receiver – one who would receive and interpret the message; and

5.     Feedback – the interplay of messages between individuals.

Noise – some people include this because through noise miscommunication emerges.

The communication process could only be perceived as complete if and only if there is understanding on the end of the receiver and the sender. In other words, feedback acknowledges the complete transfer of messages – the communication process is complete once the receiver has understood the message of the sender. Feedback is critical to effective communication between participants.

In fact, communication is but one of the most complicated topics or subjects around. To wit, communication is spatial – bounded by time and space. More so, it requires that parties to partake the route of communication must have a common ground – a common topic or a common interest. Thus, miscommunication results. 

NLP and Communication

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) was developed based on how one interacts with himself and that of others. Effective communication means a healthier and fuller life. Thus, it is best to have an open communication line with oneself and with the others as well.

Having the ability to persuade the people around you, being able to deliver memorable and effective messages, boost your confidence, deliver clear and terse communication style and being able to recognize what was communicated is the raison d’être of  successful communication through NLP.

In NLP, communication partakes through the following steps:

1.     There is an external event (happenings, data exchange, bodily movements etc)

2.     We process the external event through our internal processing and come up with an internal representation of said event. (INTERNAL REPRESENTATION includes noise, feelings etc)

3.     The internal representation then combines with physiology to create a state. (STATE appertains to our moods)

4.     Accordingly, the external event seeps in through our sensory channels (touch, olfactory, auditory, visual, taste), filtered and is processed. In the event, information is at times removed, twisted, and simplified according to several elements that tend to filter our perception.

According to a study conducted at the University of Pennsylvania (1970), researchers found out that 7 % of what we communicate is the result of the words we say, 38 % from our verbal behavior and 55 % results from our nonverbal communication. (http://nlptimelinetherapy.blogspot.com/2012/07/time-line-therapy-letting-go-of-past.html)

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Modern Hypnosis Certification in Melbourne

Tad James Co. would be having a 3-day Modern Hypnosis Certification training on the 20^th until the 22^nd of July 2012 in Melbourne, Australia. The training would be facilitated by Brad Greentree, a Certified NLP, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnosis Trainer and member of the American Board of Neuro Linguistics Programming (NLP).

The Modern Hypnosis Certification training is logically designed and is easy to master. It focuses on building your personal and professional success, allow you to create powerful motivational changes, eliminate stress and help you get rid of your vices.  

More so, the training is hands- on right from the start. You will learn by practice and not from watching DVDs after DVDs. Further, there is supervision by a Certified and experienced Hypnotherapist unlike that of the rest. Interaction between and amongst the trainer and participants plays a vital and inevitable part in the training.  Through this, both parties are able to communicate amongst each other, develop hypnosis techniques and grow together as a person, as a trainer and as participants in the said event.

The Tad James Co 3-day Modern Hypnosis Certification training curriculum includes a know how technique in conducting an interview, suggestibility testing, induction and some post-hypnotic suggestions.

Upon successful completion of the training, you will have the option of applying for Certification through the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH). With this, your certificate and certification would be recognized worldwide.

For those who want to receive their hypnotherapy certification, all you have to do is work through our suggested reading and complete a written test at home. Send it within two (2) months after completing your training and you will have your certificate.

Join the Tad James Co 3-day Modern Hypnotherapy Certification training and learn about the hypnotic world of hypnosis. Visit them at www.nlpcoaching.com for details.

Starting anew with NLP

The term Neuro Linguistic Programming is said to be doubtful or dubious. It is claimed that there is no such thing as Neuro - Linguistic – Programming. Epistemologically speaking, neuro refers to the neurons or activities in the brain, linguistic, on the other hand, deals with language while programming talks of activities utilized to mold and hone an individual – the likes of trainings, programs and seminars. Putting them all together, as some critiques claim, does not make any sense. For them, the term speaks of fallacy and of doubt-- nothing more and nothing less.

Neuro Linguistic Programming is not dubious. More so, it is not fallacious.  A particular concept or belief cannot be applied universally. It could be subscribed to by a majority and refuted by a minority, or vice versa, but never by the whole populace. Just like NLP, those who have undergone the training would agree that it works while others would argue the opposite.  

Neuro Linguistic Programming, in general, is a method and should be understood and taken as a whole. Being a method or approach that is applied in interpersonal and behavioral patterns, it should not be confused to be a cure. Some claim its success in curing phobias, weight loss reduction, smoking and other vices but the truth of the matter is that NLP is subjective and not objective. Thus, having said that, the success of NLP varies from person to person.

It is a fact then that NLP cannot help everyone at all times. Situations, needs, wants and desires are all but subjective and inevitably different from that of another person.

What the founders of Neuro Linguistic Programming aimed for was for a person to have satisfaction and success in life. Not to be taken in a holistic concept but rather on a scale that such an approach could be dealt and understood subjectively.

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